Story of a Diamond, Covered in Mud

So, one day when I was a mere teenager I asked my father (whom I consider as my personal counselor); “Why, do you think, I don’t have a boyfriend?”

That time, my friends had started dating someone; having their own relationship, while I stayed single. On the other hand, many of my close friends were boys. I haven’t really been a tomboy-type and I have always been a-guy-friendly-type. That’s why I’m asking my singleness to my father. With many boys around, I being single was something to be asked about.

He gave me some courageous reason like because I’m over-rated, because I’m too smart for them they’d feel inferior against me or because my singlehood meant for a greater good (tho I don’t know what that means).  I thanked him for all the reason because it really flattered me.

The real thing is I have issue with my weight, I still am. But he didn’t bring up physical reason at all. “Well, do you think I’m not pretty enough for the boys? Do I really have to be skinny so that I might hook up with someone?”

His answer change the way I see myself forever.

“Well, do you want to change yourself just so people like you even you’re not comfortable with it?”

“No! I like the way I am now!”

“So be it, because what really matter is the thing that lies within. You are a diamond. Even you are covered with mud or dirt, buried in the sand or below the swamp, you’re still a diamond. Only ones who see the diamond in you really meant for you.”

I know that someday someone would really see the mud-covered diamond. I really thanked my dad for this life-changing chat session.

I have been single since I was born but I’m never ashamed of it because I now I have diamond in me. Story of my life.

Story of the Mutants

What If You Were a Mutant?

(source: my tumblr post)

 

A mutant, as in X-Men, yes. Maybe the picture above would be your answer. You would try to look normal—obscuring your difference, because being a mutant is an abnormality. 

If you were a mutant, you’d be an outcast; you’d be a freak. If you were a mutant, you might spend a whole day weeping, blaming the fate and asking the unanswered question to life; “Why me? Why am I a mutant?”

As a mutant, it would be hard to admit that you were different from your society. You’d be afraid that society wouldn’t accept who you were. As the result, you’d be struggling so hard to match yourself to your society.  You would disguise your mutanity. By this, you betrayed your true self; your true identity as a mutant.

But, we don’t have to be a mutant to disguise our true personality, do we? Sometime, it’s what we do to show our ideal self, the personality we would like to be. We try to conform, because it would be easier for us to be accepted and liked by others if we had some (or many) similarities. 

Do we really have to be afraid to be different? This line from X-Men First Class could be the answer:

Look of what we will achieve. We are different. But we shouldn’t be trying to fit into society. Society should inspire and be more like us.

Raven Darkholm aka Mystique

So, be brave to show who you are, because however, we are all different ;)